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People of Principle

Do you ever feel like not going to work?

Do you generally go anyway?

The answer to both of these is yes, but the second question begs another.

Why?  We may respond that people are counting on us and we don’t want to disappoint.  We may consider that we, for the most part, enjoy our work greater than our initial morning lethargy.  We may go to work because we like or need the money.  However you may answer this question isn’t as important to the reality that it represents.

What We Choose

These three questions reveal that we chose to be people of principle.  There is some principle or ideal that we are committed to living that shapes who we are and what we do, over and above how we feel.

In our modern world we struggle with what to do with our feelings.  Yesterday I talk with a man who talked about doing things far our side of his desired character justifying it all with “But you know how angry I can get.”

The Rightful Place of Feelings

Our feelings are real. Our feelings are strong.  An initial flash of anger comes on strong, but what we do with it is vitally important.  We have the choice to feed our anger and ensure that it remains inflamed or we can remember the principles by which we live.  Some count to ten. Others seek to apply Ephesians 5:26 dealing with the anger so that it doesn’t persist.  Although our feelings are real and powerful they are not the most important or operative reality.

If they were, our world would look completely different.   Imagine what it would look like to act on every feeling.  In a moment of insecurity we may write off good friends having misinterpreted a laugh.  In a flash of fear we can unreasonable restrain ourselves from reasonable risk and the blessings of an opportunity.  Recently the folks at Sprite encouraged us to “Obey your thirst.”  While our thirst is important, we process our thirst through a principled and relational reality to act on it appropriately.

There is a constant temptation to get swept away with our emotions.  We see so many others do this that it helps to be reminded that we choose to be people of principle.  On June 2, 2010 Armando Galarraga, a pitcher for the Detroit Tigers, was throwing a perfect game.

No No Hitter

In the 9th inning a ball was hit, fielded by the first baseman and flipped to Galarraga covering first clearly getting the out.  The umpire inexplicably called the runner safe.  Fans booed, other players argued, but Galarraga show a flash of surprised, then smiles and walked to the mound to complete a one hitter.  A once in a lifetime opportunity for a perfect game derailed by a bad call wasn’t enough to derail this man of character.

May we be intentional about the principles by which we live, have a health approach to our feelings, be prepared for those moments when emotions swell and be found to be people of character.

What do you think?

Thanks for reading.

Jim

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Facebook: Friends Without Benefits

I’m on Facebook now and have been for many months. At first, a few of my close friends found me, although I’m not sure how. Good stuff. These were people I was invested in and who felt a strong tie to me. We had a nice time catching up and sharing information about our lives. We chatted, shared photos, and it all worked well because we knew each other. So, calling them my “friends” seemed right and appropriate.

Long Lost Acquaintances

Then something interesting happened. People I used to know, but haven’t had contact with in 30 years began to request “friendship” status. Because I’m a nice person, and because it might be interesting to see what they had been up to over the last three decades, I began to accept their invitations.  I also extended friendship requests to a few long lost acquaintances.

But after I accepted their friendship, I never heard from them. I offered some initial contact with some of them, and had a few responses that were brief. Most, however, did not respond at all.

A Collections of Names

I noticed that some of my “friends” had hundreds of friends. I saw one “friend” who had almost 2,000 friends. Wow! Then it hit me. They are not in contact with most of their friends. They have simply accumulated a list of names and photos that represent people with whom they have no intention of having any serious dialogue. It’s as though they simply liked to collect “friends” without the concomitant real relationship that typically characteristic friendships. Like a baseball card collection. They were friends without the benefits and responsibilities of friendship.

So, for the most part, I’ve stopped accepting such “friend” requests. It’s not (let’s be  honest) very interesting to have my Facebook account filled with the musings and quips and of people I don’t know. I really don’t care what they had for dinner. I don’t need to spend time gazing at photos of their grandchildren—as cute as they are. So I’ve stopped.

How Does This Shape Us?

What does it say about the nature of friendship, when we claim to have 500 friends, most of whom we never correspond with or really care about.

How does that view of friendship shape our character and how we live in the world?

Thanks for reading,

Wayne

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